First Date Sex : Does It Ruin Chances At A Relationship?


“If he wants to hit it and quit it he will, hata kama ni kungonja 6 months.”

Flevia, 25


“Of course! I wouldn’t date someone who is Infatuated. I wouldn’t settle for anything serious with her…cause its shallow”

Tosie, 24


“Not really …it depends on a lot of factors. Some people smash on the first night and end up getting married. Some will have sex and lose interest. So different folks, different strokes”

Bolivia, 23



“Quick secret, in the first 5 to 10 minutes of the meeting. Guys would have already categorized what they’d like with a girl. To shag, a friend, a relationship, a friend with benefits etc.
What I mean is…we are sexual beings, if we have sex on the first date or tenth, it doesn’t really matter…. what I wanted when we began the situationship remains constant.”

-Onyango, 24


“The chase is what’s exciting.”

Eddy, 27


“Mmh…yeah cause there won’t be a chase per se. I’m not saying that men only want that but it’s a very important thing for them. So, if it’s given out on the first night there won’t be those date nights or pillow talk. It will be …let’s go out, come bang or what are you wearing tonight?…. You get?
That’s what I think for guys. As for chics…I’d still say,

Yes, cause,

  • If he is wack that’s it, it won’t matter how hot he is cause you barely know him


  • You’ll start feeling guilty you gave it up easily especially if you really liked him…. and that will eat you up…. self-esteem and stuff…

Trish, 23


“No! It doesn’t make a difference these days …I mean, even if she slept with you on the 90th night, if you were meant for each other you will last. If not, it will end one day or the other.”

Brian, 25


“Definitely yes…before you bond sexually you must form a foundation of your friendship if you want the relationship to work out.”

Mumbi, 25


“It doesn’t… I have done that, It’s really all about the person, not about the time you had sex.I’ve dated a lady for 5 yrs and we had sex on the first date…we just clicked.”

Mwangi, 30



“Well, I think it depends on both of you, your personal perceptions. Because, if you think giving it up on the first date makes someone cheap then you might not wanna date them. But, if you don’t have that perception then it wouldn’t ruin your chances.
Also, the time you have known each other might not really be an issue if both of you are feeling each other and want to be in a relationship …then I don’t see why not”

Minnie, 22


“Yes, it does… I would only date her if the vibe was right. Plus it can’t be like, i meet you like 5 minutes ago then we fucking.

-Billy, 26


“If I could get you on the 1st night whose to say someone else can’t. If we’ve been talking before that maybe. The thing is foundation is weak if not completely non-existant.”

Joe, 26


Does first date sex ruin chances of a relationship?

I’m a firm believer in doing whatever makes one happy. Having said that, sex on the first date wouldn’t work for me.

I prefer the old fashioned way of getting to know someone first and following a set of rules. Taking  time to determine inorder to gain some sense of certainty. While checking out for red flags.

Is he a potential?  A friend? Someone, I shouldn’t entertain?

The decision to have casual first date sex is an individuals choice, although i prefer not to, cause of uncertainity and my perception of sex.

This is just my opinion.

I’d love to know Yours. Getting intimate on the first date. Is it a yaaiy or nay 


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  1. Both a no and a yes….sometimes we men when we see a future with a girl we get even scared to think “too bold moves” a kiss is enough….in my world …but when i know we ain’t going anywhere i will do anything i feel like

    1. Interesting…what do you mean by anything you feel like?

  2. Ummh personally I don’t think it has any harm but really it should not be so.It is good to always show you boundaries to someone on that first date so that they learn to respect you as a lady,because someone can smash you on the first night and his mind leave with the perspective of how loose the lady is.But anyway these are just my thoughts.

    1. Thanks for sharing your opinion John?. I do agree with you on the boundaries part.

  3. If the interest is genuine, you both feel so attracted to each other and the feeling is very mutual, so it happens unintentionally… That makes it a yes!
    Because it feels so good…damn! I could end up engaging her!

    1. Lol! ? you could end up engaging her

  4. To me it doesnt matter because if the intention was to smash it and leave…it doesnt matter the timeline on which you smash even if it takes a century he will smash and leave you…

    1. Hehe, it’s really that simple huh?

  5. For me i think no it doesn’t, I’d like to think sex isn’t the ultimate aphrodisiac to solidify a relationship other little things matters, like how you guys vibe.

  6. if we click like on the first date ,why not.
    intentions do matter,and the foundation should also from both sides.
    so for me it shouldn’t ruin shit.

  7. Men usually have an end goal, sex! They live for the chase. So, if you give it up the first night, they’ll be nothing to chase.

  8. I have never had sex on the first date. Its something I would want to try out only that I don’t have the courage to. Maybe with a few shots of whisky I can. But honestly I must say that people that have sex on the first date are very bold.

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