When you’re all alone by yourself, do you like you?
You know that Colbie Caillat song, “try” that takes women on a journey of self-acceptance? Encouraging us to love and accept ourselves exactly as we are? Choose confidence, self-expression and self-identify as opposed to conforming to societal pressures to look and feel a certain way.
You don’t have to try so hard, you don’t have to give it all away
You don’t have to change a single thing
Coincidentally, as I was putting together this review, this empowering song came on. I realized how intertwined the message in the book what a time to be alone by Chidera, and the song are. Chidera Eggerue is an award-winning blogger and founder of the #saggyboobsmatter movement, which to be honest I was born a member. LOL
With this book, she delves deep into all aspects of life; as an attempt to show us that we are simply enough just the way we are. You get a sense that she’s taken the time to fall deeply in love with herself and is encouraging us to do the same. Discover the magic of self-love. One thing you will especially love about the book is how the author encourages us to choose ourselves, be ourselves and love ourselves.
“nobody is ever going to be able to fill your YOU shaped hole for you. The gaping hole we all have inside that deeply craves validation, love and comfort…you’ve got to be fond of yourself enough to support yourself emotionally regardless of the intimate company of someone else.”
She addresses three parts of life.YOU- It’s okay to put yourself first; you really can’t save everyone. THEM- Everyone is fighting their own demons and protecting themselves from something. In the sense that when you encounter someone who treats you shitily it’s never about you. How people treat you is a true reflection of how they feel about themselves. US- Make a point to sustain and grow healthy relationships. Trust your gut also, as at times we tend to share our joys with people who give us back weird energy, this is a clear indication that you’re sharing yourself with the wrong person
Its a gorgeous guide to life and the best part is how extremely honest she is about mental health and relationships. Let’s not forget the combination of wild colors and patterns which will visually entice you to pick up this gem. It’s also littered with real-life lessons, original art by Chidera and nuggets of wisdom. Her Nigerian mum’s hilarious Igbo proverbs are also featured.
Did you know that chickens don’t pee? ( i literally took a minute to think about it only to realize its true)
I fell in love with this book and I hope you do too. Actually, I know you will. Unfortunately, the devil somehow lost all the awesome pictures I took. I literally had a full-blown photo shoot of this book. Mainly because my cousin was being stingy about lending it to me cause she “just bought it” (please read with a lot of spite) Its the type of book you’d want to reach for 2days or even 2 decades from now. We all need it at this point, you and me both as a constant reminder of how amazing we are.
You can purchase yours at Nuria Book Store now!
PS. Every single person in the world is a mess but you endeavor to be the best, tidiest most refined mess you can be- Chidera